Do You Have a Harmful Soul Tie with Someone?

Recently during our Family Series at Amazing Grace Worship Center, we had a Panel night, at which time our church leaders addressed questions congregants had submitted.

Four questions dealt with the subject of soul ties:  What is a soul tie, how do soul ties affect relationships, how can a soul tie be renounced and how can a soul tie be broken?

Many Christians have never heard of a soul tie, yet these ties can have powerful ramifications on a person’s soul.

What is a soul tie?

A soul tie occurs when you bond closely with another person.

Soul ties can occur in the following relationships:

  • Friends: Did you have a best friend growing up? You likely had a soul tie with him or her.
    • David & Jonathon are a perfect example: And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” 1 Samuel 18:1
  • Groups: Do you ever feel that your church is like your family?
    • “And the multitude of them that believed were of one heart and of one soul:  neither said any [of them] that ought of the things which he possessed was his own:  but they had all things common.”  Acts 4:32
  • Christians & Sinners: “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers:  for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness?  And what communion hath light with darkness.” 2 Corinthians 6:14
  • Mothers & Children / Fathers & Children
  • A Man & A Woman: “Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ?  Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”  But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.” 1 Corinthians 6:15-17

Having a physical, intimate encounter is not necessary for a soul tie to occur, but when two people are intimate with one another, it is certain a soul tie will occur

as reflected in the 1 Corinthians 6:15-17.

The reason for this is when two people are intimate with each other, they bond on a level that is also spiritual, not just emotional and physical.

For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24

As you can see, all soul ties are not harmful, such as ones between close Christian friends, parents and children and husbands and wives.

But, for this blog, let’s deal with the subject of harmful soul ties.

How does a soul tie affect a relationship

In an article for Charisma, Kris Vallotton of Bethel Church explains that when two people have bonded intimately, it is like gluing 2 pieces of wood together.

Like Genesis 2:24 explained, they become “one flesh.”

When this couple ends the relationship, it is like trying to tear these pieces of wood apart.

Common sense tells us pieces from each part of wood will remain on the other pieces due to the bond of the glue.

It is the same, spiritually speaking.

A man or woman creates a soul tie when becoming intimate with the other.

If this is done in a setting outside of a covenant marriage and the relationship ends,

each person walks away with a piece of the other person.

This creates a wound in the soul because of this soul tie that has been broken.

This wound can often cause a pull back to the person with whom another was intimate with.

Even though the relationship may have ended badly, a pull can still be present.

Have you ever known someone who kept going back to an abusive relationship?

Have you ever known someone who was divorced but couldn’t seem to move on with their life?

It is highly possible that an emotional wound from a soul tie is hindering that person from walking away and moving on with life.

How can a harmful soul tie be broken?

When we’ve given the enemy access to our souls, we need to close that door immediately.

If you feel you have an ungodly soul tie with someone, you need to close the door on that relationship and move on.

To do that, go to God in prayer and tell him that in the name of Jesus you are renouncing and breaking the ungodly soul tie you had with _______ by giving into relations outside of marriage.

Say, “I break every emotional soul tie with this person and I ask you to forgive me of all sins that I have committed as a result of this soul tie.  In Jesus’ name, I command every evil spirit that may have entered into me through this ungodly soul tie to depart now,” and then confess, “I thank you, Lord, that by faith I am set free.”

Even if you married the person you had relations with outside of marriage, ask God’s forgiveness for forming this soul tie outside His covenant guidelines, and ask Him to come and bless your marriage.

If you need accountability and extra prayer, find a leader in your church who lives a victorious lifestyle and ask them to stand in prayer with you.

And know that it may take time, but God can and will heal those wounds in your soul.

There is a wonderful life to be lived because God has the best plans for you! Take time to read Jeremiah 29:11-13 today.

4 Reasons Why You Should Tell Your Family What Is Going On

Independence is what this country was founded for, and it remains a common theme among Americans.

But Christianity was never intended to be an independent lifestyle.

Have you ever thought about the fact that God invented families?

First, God made Adam.  He saw Adam didn’t need to be alone, so God created Eve to be a life-partner for Adam.  Then, came children. (Genesis 2)

  1.  Because It all started with a family

Jesus made it clear that we are to be there for one another and live interdependently. (Galatians 6:2)

Not only should we keep our family in the loop because it brings fulfillment to our lives like nothing else, but also because there is power in a family.

Because a father and mother have been entrusted with children, they have been placed by God in a position of authority in the home.

This is why it is pleasing to God when children obey their parents-they are recognizing whom God has placed in their lives to guide and direct them. (Ephesians 6:1)

God gave us our parents and siblings to do life together and be there for one another.

2.  Because they may already know

Because of this responsibility, God will often show parents ways to intercede for their children.

I remember being newly married and facing a battle with fear.

My mom told about a dream she had to me and my sister.  She explained she saw the devil outside someone’s home laughing at them.

“It was my house, wasn’t it?” I asked.

“Yes,” she said.  She had already been praying for me.

Needless to say I went home and did some “spiritual house-cleaning” myself.

There have been so many moments over the years that I took comfort in knowing that God could reach my parents and they would intercede for me.

3.  There is Power in Numbers

When believers come together in prayer asking something from their Heavenly Father, Jesus  promised He would not only grant their request, but His Presence would be with them. (Matthew 18:19)

Jesus even went so far as to say when we see things here on the earth that are not as they should be, we can bind that situation and call forth good to come. (Matthew 18:18)

Just think what a family who comes together in prayer can do?

4.  Because War is a Family Affair

When Nehemiah experienced threats because he was rebuilding the walls of Jerusalem, he stationed the workers into groups according to their families and gave them this charge:

“Be not ye afraid of them: remember the Lord, which is great and terrible, and fight for your brethren, your sons, and your daughters, your wives, and your houses.”  Nehemiah 4:14

When the enemy threatens your family.  Bind together to fight for one another.

Many people are too proud, and many times, too embarrassed to let their families know what they are struggling with.

In Spirit Wars, author Kris Vallotton recounts a story when his 15 year old son came to him and his wife to explain he was addicted to pornography.

Being a Christian, he had tried to free himself of this addiction for two months, but had been unsuccessful.

His parents encouraged him to tell the rest of the family so they could stand with him in prayer and accountability.

Vallotton goes on to explain they did not condemn him, but explained to his son that he was too awesome to be bound by pornography.

They prayed for him and stayed extra-close to him on hard days.

After about eight months, his son was free.  He is now 31 and has never struggled with pornography again.

My sister and I recently endured our own battle’s with fear at the beginning of 2017.

Any given day you could find one of us at our parent’s home requesting they lay their hands on our head and pray for us to have relief.

Through months of prayer, binding and loosing, declarations of Scripture and pulling down wrong thoughts, peace came.

It is not uncommon in our family for any of us to ask prayer of one another.

This is the way it should be.

My mom’s sisters have a facebook messenger group they use not only for keeping up with one another, but also for sharing their prayer requests.

Even though my grandparents  are in heaven, what a joy it is for my mom and her sisters to know they still have each other’s backs in prayer.

A final note:

Although it may seem uncomfortable, I truly believe you will find a release of burden when you share your struggles with your family.

I also believe you will find those struggles getting easier day by day as your family surrounds you in prayer.

And for those without a natural Christian family

Do not feel alone in your spiritual battles if you are the only Christian in your family.

Your church family can stand in as your family during hard times.

Find a couple in whom you have seen victory modeled and request them to pray for you.

You do not have to struggle alone.

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